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01-10-2008, 12:12 PM
My wife, Cheryl passed on 3 Jan. After all her fighting with the botched surgery and MRSA staph infection so hard all last year, it was one of the chemo drugs in her very first treatment that took her.

I am thankful for that last, rainy and foggy ride she was able to make just after Thanksgiving. I tried to talk her out of it and she'd have none of that.

I was keeping a blog to help inform her family of her treatment status, sure ended too quickly.

Blog For Cheryl (http://rickbnsa.blogspot.com/)

01-10-2008, 12:53 PM
I'm really sorry to hear that Rick. I know you must be having a real hard time of it right now. Will say an extra prayer for you.
May Cheryl Rest in Peace.

01-10-2008, 06:41 PM
Sorry to hear about your loss. Will keep you in my prayers.

01-10-2008, 08:33 PM
At this time there is not much that can be said,Sorry to hear about your loss. Will keep you in my prayers, i lost my wife "Jan" unexpectedly 2 years ago and it still is a very deep hurt, she suffered a heart attack time will help some , but if there is any thing i can do , just let me know

01-10-2008, 09:35 PM
My thoughts and prayers are with you.


01-10-2008, 10:35 PM
I am sorry to hear of your loss
Time will help heal the hurt
prayers are with you and extended family

01-11-2008, 12:18 AM
sorry to hear this . prayers for you and yours

01-11-2008, 12:30 AM
Very very sorry to here this

All our thoughts are for you...

01-11-2008, 01:50 AM
I am very sorry to hear about your wife, Cheryl. My prayers and condolences go out to you and the rest of the family and friends.

01-11-2008, 02:11 AM
I am terribly sorry about your loss. Best wishes to you and your family as you try to pick-up the pieces.

01-11-2008, 03:03 AM
I tried to read Cheryl's Blog but couldn't get through the first entry. My Mother just passed from Cancer right before Christmas, and my sister from Leukemia, less than 3 months before my Mom. Watching a loved one fight the battle is just heartwrenching. I feel for you rick. Thoughts, prayers and a bunch of hugs coming your way.

01-11-2008, 03:35 AM
Very, very sorry to hear of your loss. May she rest in peace.........Lenny

01-11-2008, 04:18 AM
I'm sorry for your loss. My deepest sympathies.

01-11-2008, 04:38 AM
Rick, I'm very sorry to hear of Cheryl's passing. Unfortunately, death is part of living. Her memory will live on in the hearts of those who knew and loved her.

You have my heart felt sympathy and prayers.

01-11-2008, 04:43 AM
Heartbreaking.........Sorry for your loss. I wish there were words to say to help you, but I know that there are not.

01-11-2008, 07:17 AM
Condolences from my family to you and yours. If you need anything, let us know!

01-11-2008, 07:25 AM
Babe and Rick

You've got my deepest condolences. A lot of folks are thinking about you.

01-11-2008, 07:29 AM
Rick, My deepest sympathies go out to you and your family.

01-11-2008, 07:40 AM
IM so sorry for your loss. GOD be with you!

01-11-2008, 08:56 AM

Sorry to hear about your wife. I pray that God eases your pain.

01-11-2008, 09:22 AM
My step-kids' father died Christmas night 2 years ago of massive system failure; my mom died last Christmas from lung cancer, my step-kids' uncle died 2 days ago from mouth and throat cancer, and my sister-in-law is near death from leukemia. I empathize with you, Rick. Hang in there, buddy; time does numb the pain.

01-12-2008, 03:38 AM
I'm so very sorry to hear that rick. You & your family will be in my prayers.

RIP in Cheryl.

01-12-2008, 03:57 AM
we are so sorry for your loss bro......your blog was truly a testimony to your love and dedication to your friend, wife and companion. I am at a loss to say anything more without welling up with sadness and the brink of tears......

take care bro and consider yourself blessed to have found such a good woman. Buck

Beyond the door
There's peace I'm sure.
And I know there'll be no more...
Tears in heaven

01-12-2008, 11:47 AM
Hugs to you Rick...
I got through part of your Blog and I'm sitting here crying....
Rest in Peace Cheryl....

01-12-2008, 02:30 PM
My deepest heartfelt sympathy to you Rick in the passing of your wife Cheryl....may she rest in peace and now endure no more suffering.....cherish the good memories....hold onto them!!!

01-12-2008, 07:41 PM
My words cannot convey how sorry I am for your loss

01-13-2008, 01:54 AM
So very sorry to haer about your wife.

01-14-2008, 04:22 AM
Rick, sorry for your loss. My best wishes for your well being on this. I will try to work up the guts to read your blog. I doubt anyone can imagine how hard this kind of thing must be.

01-14-2008, 05:09 AM
so sorry for your loss Rick
may GOd help you find peace in all the happy memories

01-14-2008, 09:22 PM
A candle has been lit.

You're in my thoughts and prayers. RIP Cheryl


01-14-2008, 09:25 PM
So sorry Rick for your loss. Your blog is beautiful, stay strong.

01-14-2008, 09:32 PM
My wife is a cancer survivor. From my own ordeal I know that you are a hell of a man to stay with your woman through all the shit she went through. You are a true saint.

My wife and I both will keep you in our prayers.

01-14-2008, 10:38 PM
From my own ordeal I know that you are a hell of a man to stay with your woman through all the shit she went through. You are a true saint.Amen to that. Im very sorry for your loss Rick. May she rest in peace.

01-14-2008, 11:08 PM
So sorry to hear of this. May she RIP. Prayers for you and your family.
I just finished reading your blog and I have tears streaming down my face. I don't know how you found the strength to do all this during which time you were also caring for her and going through the hardest time of your life. You are indeed a very special man, and your son seems to be cut from the same cloth.

01-15-2008, 04:49 AM
Sorry for your loss. May Cheryl Rest in Peace.

01-15-2008, 06:44 AM
So, so sorry to hear this news......Stand strong and mighty help will come.

01-15-2008, 08:40 AM
Rick, I'm so sorry for your loss and want
you to know that you and your family will
be in my prayers and thoughts. I know
that nothing I can say or do right now
will ease your pain, but know this, you
have many friends who stand ready and
willing for you should you need anything
including myself. God's peace be with you.


01-15-2008, 10:43 AM
my thoughts and prayers are with you Bro. I am sorry for your loss.

01-15-2008, 11:01 PM
Rick, I will keep you and your family in my prayers. I know how hard it is to take care of the someone you love and loose them to cancer. Your wife is free now, take care with lots of hugs.

01-18-2008, 11:22 AM
Thanks everyone for the kind words. I'm not really sure why I posted this here in the first place but all the thoughts and prayers seem to have helped me understand the why of that.

Tomorrow would have been our 23rd anniversary. So, reckon I'll afford myself one more day then gather my sad sack ass up and get on down the road.

I spoke to Cheryl's oncologist tonight and he confirmed she had a genetic defect which pretty much sealed her fate as soon as the chemo drugs were first injected. Unfortunately, the test was done too late.

So, if I can ask for anyone to take something from this, its this:

Should you or a loved one ever face something similar, ask EVERY question imaginable and get ALL info on the risks beforehand. We thought we did this.

Specifically in our case, the drug 5-fu which is a "benchmark" colon cancer drug and used for other digestive tract cancers as well is has a mortality rate of 33% when given to a person with what is known as DPD Defect.

Her oncologist said he didn't pretest due to two reasons: rarity of the problem and to avoid financial hardship over the holidays for us.

I've found this test ranges from $500 to $1100. I'd have really rather had her doc focus on all risks and leave our financial wellbeing in our hands.

Thanks again to all. I'm moving through the stages of grief and seem to have slowed in the Fucking Pissed category for a bit.

Ride Safely and enjoy those around you


01-18-2008, 12:53 PM
*hug* Rick. So sorry for your loss.

01-18-2008, 02:24 PM
Rick I am so sorry...

01-21-2008, 10:17 PM
May god be at your side during this time of loss.

03-20-2008, 11:16 PM
Rick, so sorry to hear about your loss. My prayers are with you.

03-20-2008, 11:22 PM
so sorry rick and i pray for your peace and comfort

03-20-2008, 11:33 PM
Just saw this post Rick. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

03-21-2008, 07:23 AM
Sorry for your loss may the lord bless you and your family.